Our customers want to see happy and engaged models doing sexy stuff.
Being happy and engaged
We have a separate FAQ on what it means to be happy and engaged on shoots – at the start of the shoot, your Shoot Producer will discuss what that really means for you in more detail.
Doing sexy stuff
Doing sexy stuff is more nuanced, and it can be subjective (what you think is sexy may be different from what our customers think is sexy!). We have a clear understanding of what our customers want.
As we see it, there two sides to “doing sexy stuff”; Things we don’t do, and things we do do.
Sexy stuff: What we don’t do 🙅♂️
We’re careful to never slip into mainstream porn tropes. A trope is a often used phrase or concept, presented so often that it becomes boring. For example, a scene where actors have a fight then make up is a trope of a romantic comedy movies. The phrase, “stop and smell the roses” (and the meaning we take from it, to slow down and enjoy life), is an another example of a trope.
Mainstream porn has a lot of tropes we avoid in our shoots. Some examples;
Over-acting pleasure, moaning with pleasure when nothing sexual is happenning, faking orgasms
Pouting, or pulling down lower lip with fingers
Wearing high heels, makeup, push-up bras, acting confused or immature
Acting like someone you’re not / trying to be like a porn star or cam model
Our customers never want to see these things – they pay to visit our site because we offer an alternative to these tired tropes.
Some models we work with think this is what our customers want, becasuse it’s how they work for other companies, or for their own content production. Our Shoot Producer will work with you to show a different side of you.
Sexy stuff: What we do do 👍
We’re show a more “down to earth”, naturalistic, honest and genuine approach. For example;
Open-hearted and genuine sexual self-exploration, proudly showing off your assets. Showing how your breasts and butt wobble, how you like to touch yourself.
Show you as a self-empowered woman
Show you to be educated, self-aware, a “global citizen” with passions and concerns, opinions, fears and joys
Anal insertions are never required in any of our shoots, but some models enjoy it, and so do our customers. As for all activities on all shoots, you control the extent of anal play you’d do in a shoot.
Classifying anal play
We consider anus opening to be where the buttocks are pulled wide apart causing the anus to open up a little. This is part of the Explicit Posing Level for Solo and Guest Direction shoots, and it’s a requirement in Girl Girl Hardcore and Girl Boy shoots too (him to her).
We consider anal play to be touching and pushing the anus with fingers or props, with no anal insertion (for example, tip of little finger juuuust inside the anus – that’s anal insertion, not anal play). Anal play is part of the Explicit Posing Level for Solo and Guest Direction shoots, and it’s typical in Girl Girl Hardcore and Girl Boy (him to her) shoots too (but is not a requirement).
We consider rimming (oral-anal contact, anal licking) to be contact of a tongue to the anus. This is an option for models in girl-girl and girl-boy shoots (him to her only), but is never required.
We consider anal insertions to be inserting body parts (fingers, toes, penis) or props (dildo, vibrator, or similar) into the anus. The model receiving the insertion is in control of the size, shape and depth of anal penetration. Anal insertions are never required in any shoot, but is always appreciated by customers!
Payment
We do not pay an additional fee for anus opening, anal play, rimming, or anal insertions on shoots. We want to capture models engaging with anal stimulation because they genuinely enjoy it, not just for a few extra bucks 🤑.
It’s no problem if a model does not want to do anal insertions on a shoot (even if they do enjoy it).
Keeping it clean
Anal play can be pretty hot 🔥, but we never want it to get… “too real”, you know? That means, we never want to see poo 💩.
We know that our bodies don’t always behave how we want, and accidents can happen. It’s never a problem to call a stop of the shoot to clean up and re-set (the model is expected to do any cleaning necessary – not the Shoot Producer).
The model receiving the anal penetration is in control of what happens next (for example, “no more anal insertions today”).
Preparation for anal play with another model
Showers are required on all shoots where two models are interacting sexually. For your shoot partner’s comfort, we ask that special attention is placed on cleaning your anus thoroughly, however we recommend that soap is never inserted inside the anus or vulva! 🙅♀️ 🧼
Of course, your shoot partner will do the same for herself 👍.
Preparation for anal insertions
People who enjoy anal insertions tend to have a routine to prepare. From asking some models, it goes like this;
Go to the toilet to defecate naturally
Use a rectal douching tool for 45 to 60 minutes to clean out the rectum of all faeces, squirting clean water into the rectum and passing it out again into the toilet
It can be kinda loud 💨, and there may be some discomfort, but proceeding with caution and patience helps
Have a shower
Make the shoot 🍑👉🕳️
ABOVE: Image of a simple rectal douching kit from eBay, US$15 delivered in discreet packaging.
Shoot Producers will always provide privacy for rectal douching, should the model choose to do this on-set.
The process may need to be repeated after lunch, at the model’s own discretion.
Using lube
It’s appropriate to use lube for anal insertions if the model chooses, but we ask that only the minimum amount necessary is used. For example, rather than start with a handful and slap it on, start with a pea-sized dollop, see how it goes. If more is needed, use one more pea-sized dollop. 🙏🏽
There are a few situations where we don’t pay for your travel.
If you live in the same city as the Shoot Producer
If you live in the same city as the Shoot Producer, we don’t pay for your travel from your home to the Shoot Producer, if the distance you need to travel one way is less than 100km / 65 miles.
In some cases, we may make exceptions – let the Model Liaison know about your situation, and we’ll consider it. If we do make an exception, you’d pay for the travel expenses, keep the receipts, and claim a reimbursement after the shoot block is complete.
If you’re visiting a Shoot City anyway
If you’re visiting a Shoot City anyway, for example;
You live in Bristol in the UK, and you’re heading to Barcelona for a one week holiday. You know we have a Shoot Producer in Barcelona, so you let us know you’re going to be there, and ask if we can offer you any work while you’re there.
If we can offer you work – which is not a guarantee – we would not pay for your flights / train / bus fares, or accom in this scenario.
However, the Transfer Allowance, for travel within the Shoot City only – does apply.
If you’re in a Shoot City as part of a “shoot tour”
If you’re in a Shoot City as part of a “shoot tour” – that is, visiting multiple cities, and doing sex work in each city for several companies – we may contribute to your travel. For example;
You live in Australia. abbywinters.com offers to fly you to Barcelona for some shoots. You organise more shoot work in Berlin and Prague, with other companies.
abbywinters.com may instead pay for a third of the return flight – the other companies should also offer to pay a third each.
We are committed to making consenting shoots that are physically and emotionally comfortable for models.
If problems are not addressed during the shoot, they may get worse – that’s bad for everyone. If you have a problem with how someone is behaving, let us know so we can address it. We acknowledge that sometimes, these conversations are difficult or scary to have… but they still need to be had.
If your performance is affected by an issue you did not give us an opportunity to resolve – regardless who is “at fault” – subsequent shoots may not be able to proceed
Help us by clarifying if this matter is a “sense of unease”, or a more serious matter (or somewhere in between) – don’t make us guess!
In the lead-up to the shoot
If a Shoot Producer has behaved inappropriately before the shoot (for example, via emails, text messages, phone calls), let the Model Liaison know.
Make your concern clear, for example;
Model: I was texting with the Shoot Producer, and he seemed a little weird, but we set a date.
“A little weird” is a vague comment that is difficult to interpret – and is not practical for us to take action on.
A better approach could be;
Model: When I was texting with the Shoot Producer, I felt uncomfortable. He was asking me how often I wash my clothes, and that does not seem relevant to the shoot to me?
Questions from Shoot Producers before the shoot may need to be personal in nature (for example, asking about your underwear, masturbation routine or menstrual cycle) – these are relevant to planning a shoot!
Expect Shoot Producers to behave professionally at all times, even while discussing very personal matters – more info in our Models Charter.
On the shoot day
Shoot Producers are motivated by making shoots that meet the requirements of our customers, with models who are collaborative and engaged. They are experts in media production, and well trained in what we require technically and creatively.
For serious offences, first the model should be clear about the issue – consider if it could be a misunderstanding, from two different perspectives.
ABOVE: Perspective matters.
Let’s imagine a scale of 1 to 5, where 1 is a minor inconvenience and 5 is a very serious issue.
Level 1: The model has a preference that’s different to the Shoot Producer
A minor issue, a passing comment like “I’d prefer to do things this way – could that work for you?” will be listened to and respected. Likely, some compromise can be made, and your Shoot Producer will always be open to this. Perhaps some negotiation will take place, for example;
✔️ You want to wear the blue socks, but the Shoot Producer would prefer the red socks. You guys discuss it, and decide to wear one red and one blue sock for fun. 😅
In most cases, we can come to an agreement. Occasionally, we may not be able to (for example, you only want to wear black clothes, but as we’ve made clear, we can’t make shoots of models wearing all black).
This sort of small compromise regularly happens on shoots every week, and is no problem.
Level 2: The model is uncomfortable
More serious issues should be clearly raised by the model. For example;
🤔 In an interview portion of the shoot, the Shoot Producer asks you about how you like your breasts to be touched. You had a recent bad experience with your breasts being groped without your permission, and would rather not talk about that today.
🛑 You say, “I don’t want to answer questions about my breasts today, please.”
✔️ The Shoot Producer agrees, and changes the subject – and does not ask you to talk about her breasts again (and does not ask the model why, either!).
Something like this happens once or twice a week, it’s never a problem.
Level 3: The model feels offended or significantly inconvenienced
Perhaps the Shoot Producer said something that offended the model – while our Shoot Producers are selected to be creative professionals, they are also humans who can make mistakes, make bad jokes, or misunderstand your mood. Or maybe the lunch the Shoot Producer provided does not meet the agreed requirements, or the shoot ran several hours over time without warning?
It can be awkward to speak calmly when things have gone wrong, but it will mean the shoot day does not need to be cancelled if the model and Shoot Producer can sort this out.
Models can expect a sincere apology from the Shoot Producer, and modified behaviour for the remainder of the shoot day.
It’s always fine to message the Model Liaison on WhatsApp if speaking with the Shoot Producer is not working – you can ask the matter to be escalated to the Shoot Producer Trainer, or even the Owner of the company (however, due to time zones, they may not be able to address the issue immediately).
This happens a few times a year. It’s very awkward for everyone. 😬
Level 4: The model is verbally abused
For example, the Shoot Producer calls the model inappropriate names, bullies the model, or raises their voice in anger.
While this probably comes from a place of frustration of the shoot not going right, this is unacceptable behaviour. We will investigate all cases thoroughly. Depending on the findings, the Shoot Producer may be reprimanded, placed on probation, or required to attend additional training. Repeat offences will result in termination of the Shoot Producer’s contract with us.
At any time during a shoot day, the model should feel free to leave the set – she will never be restricted from doing so. In such a situation, the company will reimburse the model for an Uber (or similar) ride to a safe place of their choosing within the Shoot City, and organise their trip home promptly.
Let the Model Liaison know what happened as soon as you are able to, so we can support you.
This happens occasionally – once every few years.
Level 5: The model has been physically assaulted
For example, the Shoot Producer slaps a model, or commits some other form of physical violence. The Shoot Producer does not let the model leave the shoot location (for example, locking the door).
This is completely unacceptable.
We encourage the model to contact the police promptly, and to let us know about it as well. We will always help the police in their investigation, and we’ll do our own investigation as well.
This is a “two way street” – if a model assaults a Shoot Producer, the Shoot Producer may choose to involve the police (and will definitely cancel the shoot!).
This has never happened in the 22+ year history of the company.
After the shoot
If you receive unwanted attention or inappropriate comments from anyone connected with abbywinters.com after a shoot, let us know.
But first, consider the “context”. For example;
We email you to offer some work for next week. You’re busy next week, so you don’t bother responding. We SMS you a few days later because we got no response, and try calling you the day after that.
You feel we are being overbearing, and you don’t like it! From our perspective, you have expressed interest in more shoots, we’d like to make more shoots of you, and the Shoot Producer wants the work…
If you had simply let us know you’re not available, we’ll stop trying to make contact! (And if you don’t want to work with us at all any more, that’s fine as well – how to handle that).
If it’s a more serious offence, for example, if someone is trying to set up a date (like, a romantic date, not a shoot date!), sexting with you, sending you inappropriate pictures of themselves, inviting you to social / personal occasions, or similar – that’s not appropriate. Let the abbywinters.com Owner know, on garion.hall@abbywinters.com. If the Owner is the one making inappropriate advances, message the Shoot Producer Trainer, Masie, on masie@abbywinters.com.
For the most serious issues, for example, someone from abbywinters.com shows up uninvited at your home, workplace or a social gathering, or some other kind of stalking behaviour, harassment or bullying (online or in-person), it’s appropriate to report it to the police. Please also let us know about the situation.
We’ve never had such an accusation in our company’s history, but we will take such an accusation very seriously.
We have a very strict no-touching policy, which means Shoot Producers with never touch models sexually (even if they invite it).
But there are some situations where Shoot Producers may touch models;
A greeting at the start of the day
It’s always appropriate for Shoot Producers to offer models a professional handshake when first meeting them, or meet them again after a time apart (for example, on their first shoot, and the second shoot a few weeks later).
Fist-bumps, high-fives and other dap greetings
Little human touches like fist-bumps, high-fives and similar actions can make the day more fun and help build solidarity and connection. Models are welcome to initiate them, as are Shoot Producers.
It’s also fine to say you prefer not to do these sorts of things – no one will take offence, and your choice will be respected.
If the model initiates farewell touch
We acknowledge that shoot days can be powerful emotional experiences shared with the Shoot Producer and that some models may initiate a farewell hug by way of “closure”.
We guide Shoot Producer that it’s appropriate to return the hug as a human, while keeping their pelvis separate from the model, and to disengage as soon as the model does.
Shoot Producers will never initiate an end-of-day hug.
Touching as part of a pre-agreed Shoot Plan or Shoot Type
Some occasional Shoot Types involve the Shoot Producer physically touching models. One example are shoots made by female Guest Shoot Producers (who are sometimes models themselves).
Model-touching by the Shoot Producer will be approved by the Creative Director on a shoot-by-shoot basis, and will always have been thoroughly described and explicitly agreed to with the model weeks before the shoot day. These shoots are very rare.
There are never exceptions to our “no sexual touching” rule for the standard Shoot Types we make every week (Solo, Girl-Girl, Girl-Boy, Intimate Moments, Guest Direction) – there is never sexual touching from the Shoot Producer on these shoots.
Touching to save a model’s life
We assert that it’s appropriate for a Shoot Producers to touch a model in life-saving situations, for example;
Giving CPR when the model is not breathing or her heart is not beating;
Administering back slaps or a Heimlich manoeuvre to dislodge food the model is choking on;
Dragging the model to safety after she was swept away by rapids on a river shoot;
Pulling the model out of the way of a speeding car that was about to hit her;
Applying pressure to a seriously bleeding wound;
Carrying the model from a burning building.
In these situations, we weigh the model’s personal dignity below the potential loss of life.
After the safety of the people we work with, consent is the most important thing in our business. We believe that consent is an key aspect of people sharing their sexuality making human friendly porn.
There’s two different aspects of consent;
Consent between models and Shoot Producers; and
Consent between models appearing in the same shoot.
Consent between models appearing in the same shoot together is quite separate from consent between Shoot Producers and models, because the context is so different.
For example, two models on a “girl girl hardcore shoot” will be giving each other oral sex, whereas a Shoot Producer will never even touch a model!
Consent between models and Shoot Producers
The company mandates many rules for Shoot Producers and models, that cover the main consent-related concerns. For example;
The content of the shoot being made is thoroughly defined, documented, trained, shared and understood by Shoot Producers and Models alike;
Shoot Producers adhere to our Models Charter, and are thoroughly trained in working with models to meet these standards.
These standards in our business set an excellent foundation for consent matters on shoots.
On shoots, Shoot Producers develop an open dialogue with models so both parties feel empowered to share their preferences and consent considerations during the shoot day. We have a few techniques for helping models feel comfortable in sharing their preferences.
We encourage models to “speak up”, and models are always supported by the company and the Shoot Producer should they choose to cancel or modify the shoot for any reason.
Shoot Producers welcome constructive feedback from models during shoots. Feedback can be offered at any time, but during the shoot is best so the Shoot Producer can make the rest of the shoot day better for you.
Some areas you may want to offer feedback include;
The pace of the shoot (speed up / slow down)
How the Shoot Producer makes estimates (vague “a few” vs specific “2”)
The activities they are directing (less / more / over there instead)
The questions they are asking (please change the subject)
Lunch for subsequent shoot days
The temperature in the room
Start times for shoot days
The name they call you by
The words they use to describe things
This list is not intended to limit what models can provide feedback on – nothing is “off limits” – this list is only to demonstrate that any kind of feedback is welcome. 😇
If you’re stuck with how to start this conversation, remember that Shoot Producers view their work with you as a collaboration together. So you can open with something like, “Hey, can we stop the shoot for a moment? I just want to discuss something…”. The Shoot Producer will stop recording and put their camera down to chat with you. It’s never a problem!
In the Pre Shoot Briefing, your Shoot Producer will ask how you like to receive feedback – how often, and how “effusive” (that is, how “unrestrained” the feedback is).
This can be a little awkward to discuss, perhaps seeming a little “needy”, but we all need feedback. Getting meaningful feedback at the right time can make us feel really good about ourselves – and help us do a good job!
We’re aware of some cultural differences, for example where American models tend to prefer more frequent and more effusive feedback than European and Australian models (who may feel they are being patronised with “American-style” feedback), but rather than make assumptions we ask you what you like.
Giving models positive feedback
Even if you ask us to, we won’t give much positive feedback on your physical appearance (for example, the size or shape of your breasts, the way your pussy looks, your hair colour, your height, the colour of your skin, or the length of your legs). Most of that comes from the DNA of your parents.
Instead, we’ll tend to focus on your accomplishments – for example, your flexibility, strength and endurance; the languages you speak fluently, the skills you have learned, your creativity and ingenuity, the experiences you’ve had – and, of course – your commitment to making an excellent shoot! This stuff comes from your commitment to being your best self – that’s what we want to show to our customers as well.
Giving models negative feedback
Over the time we’ve gotten to know you, we have been working to set clear expectations for the shoot.
Part of this is, what we need you to do – a key part of which is to be happy and engaged in the shoot creation process (more info on what we mean by that). This is recapped in the Pre Shoot Briefing, presented in the context of the product we’re making for our customers (customers of abbywinters.com pay us to make shoots of genuinely happy, engaged models).
During the shoot, if you do not meet the basic requirements (or other necessary aspects of a shoot), we assume you want to do a good job, but somehow there’s been a misunderstanding 😮. No worries, the Shoot Producer will lead a discussion on what we’re seeking again, and discuss how what you’re doing is different from that. We’ll resume the shoot, and provide ongoing guidance. This solves most problems we encounter.
If you still don’t seem to understand – or be able to deliver – what we need, the Shoot Producer will stop the shoot again, and this time ask for a walk around the block or a similar “mode change” to discuss the situation. Maybe you’re just not in the mood today, something else is going on – or you’ve changed your mind about the shoot?
Or maybe your expectations are not being met, or have changed? At the end of this discussion, the Shoot Producer will recap what they understand, and offer a plan for moving forward.
If you’re still not able to engage on the necessary level and make a shoot for our customers collaboratively, the Shoot Producer will cancel the shoot today.
Before the shoot itself starts (but after the Grooming check, Paperwork, and Clothing Selection), the Shoot Producer gives the models appearing in the shoot a Pre-Shoot Briefing.
This recaps what the models should already know about the shoot, but in practical terms (as it’s actually happening for real over the next few hours). The Shoot Producer will ask models to share their understanding of what’s required and expected before the shoot begins. Together, they will workshop some poses for the shoot, and other thematic ideas – this varies by the Shoot Type that has been booked.
The Pre Shoot Briefing applies to all Shoot Types, and even if there is only one model on-set. It’s a great opportunity to “get on the same page” with the Shoot Producer, and get your questions answered.
We typically shoot the still images first on a Solo shoot day, but there’s also a Pre-Video-Shoot Briefing (usually after lunch), where the specific needs of video are discussed.
All the shoots we make are consensual (that means, models and Shoot Producers agree and consent to everything that happens on the shoot).
“She [Shoot Producer Giulia] didn’t force anything on me. Usually, the shoot is explained and then they ask for something more… She told me not to touch myself at all because I’m not getting paid for that. I was really impressed.” (Madison A, Aug 2022)
We invite all models to share their boundaries before and during shoots, and we believe consent only exists at the moment (saying “yes” an hour ago does not mean “yes” now). Your Shoot Producer will ask for your consent many times throughout the shoot, and give you opportunities to share how you’re feeling about the shoot.
For that reason, we welcome models saying “no” (or a similar variation like “I’d prefer not to do that.”) – at any time. We also believe that no is a complete sentence (more info) – we don’t expect you to justify why you’re saying “no”. However, we may ask for clarification on what that means for the rest of the day.
Here’s how it works;
If you prefer not to do a certain pose, answer a line of interview questioning, or have lunch later in the day (or anything else on a shoot day), you speak up
Shoot Producers are pretty cool, but they are not telepathic and they have a job to do, so if you indicate you’re ok with how things are going, they’ll keep going in that direction.
You let the Shoot Producer know clearly “no”.
Variations are fine, for example, “This is making me uncomfortable” or “I want to do something else now”
Don’t be vague – changing the subject or taking a toilet break will not be interpreted as a “no”.
The Shoot Producer respects your decision
They will never “argue” with you, bargain with you, push you to reconsider, coerce you, or ask for reasons
The Shoot Producer will suggest some alternatives
A different line of questioning, a different pose, lunch later in the day…
The Shoot Producer may ask for clarification
For example, “Do you mean, no questions about bacon sandwiches – or no questions about food at all?” or “Ok, you’re uncomfortable with that pose – can we try some other poses at the same Posing Level, or would you like to reduce your Posing Level for this shoot?”, or “Do you mean, you want to skip lunch today, or just have it later?”
Communication rocks! 😎
If you say (or indicate) “no” a lot, we need to work out if we can really make the shoot today. For example;
Every time the Shoot Producer directs you into a pose that shows your bum, you always say “no”.
That’s a problem: bums are pretty good 🍑, our customers like bums, and they want to see your bum. We’ve let you know that we’ll be capturing your bum a lot in the shoot. If you’re not comfortable showing your bum on camera, we cannot make a full shoot of you. That means you cannot be paid, and the media we have captured on the shoot day so far will be destroyed.
That’s ok – perhaps a little frustrating for everyone, but it’s far better to let the Shoot Producer know that now than to make the shoot and regret it forever, right?
“She [Shoot Producer Giulia] didn’t force anything on me. Usually, the shoot is explained and then they ask for something more… She told me not to touch myself at all because I’m not getting paid for that. I was really impressed.” (