Complete these “assignments” the next few times you have sex. These will improve the shoot we make together.
First, read these out to each other. He starts.
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Communicate
- Sex is better when you know what your partner wants
- Assignment: Next time you have sex, describe to your partner one specific thing you’d like them to do differently when you have sex. Embrace your partner’s ideas. No shame, no blame.
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Have fun
- Hopefully, your sex is already fun. Let’s make it funner!
- Plan a thing you can do during sex to make your partner laugh like crazy, and do it.
- Plan two things to do in the shoot (one for stills, once for video), but keep it secret from your partner! Impromptu and unexpected things are great too, but also plan some stuff.
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Be dirty
- Dirty sex is good sex
- Decide what “dirty” means for you both, practise it, and bring ideas to our video chat. We might include it in the shoot, if it works within our paradigm. Not everything is right for us, but we should discuss it.
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Initiate sex
- Communicate when you want sex, without words
- Agree on a nonverbal signal for your partner that you’re open for sex. For example, she might wear a certain earring a certain way (does not mean if not showing that sign she’s NOT down for sex, or that she REQUIRES sex when showing the sign).
- We might not use this in the shoot, but it’s fun anyway 🙂
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Mix it up
- Variety is the spice of life, right?
- Try at least one new sex position each time you have sex. Consider positions that do not involve PIV, but feel good (for example, can she have an orgasm with no hands, by rubbing her clit on his thigh, or knee?)
- Look up some positions online together, find ones that you both think would be fun, and test them out.
If you have questions specifically about these assignments, respond to our last email. If you have more general questions about what will happen on the shoot, add them to the list.
